The Ways I'm an Awesome Wife

So we all know I’m very far from perfect. I’m whiny, lazy, a mediocre cook, a lackluster housekeeper, blah blah blah.

But I try.

And there are some areas in which I’m an excellent wife to my long-suffering husband.

Example 1: I scheduled flu shots for the four of us. I do this every year. That in itself makes me an excellent wife and mother. I mean, hello, I care about my family’s health and take the time and energy to make appointments for preventative care. So yes, that’s one.

But further into that example is the fact that I know my husband hates paperwork. He can’t stand filling out forms.

So the other day at the doctor’s office, I arrived before tom and the girls. I filled out all the forms to update Alyssa and Olivia’s files. They still weren’t done when I finished the girls’ forms so the receptionist asked me if I wanted to start on Tom’s so that when he got there, all he’d have to do was sign.

Sure, why not? I figured it would just make his life easier. And it did. He was very grateful to just have to write his name three times. See, I’m a most excellent wife.

Example 2: When I am home, I am in charge of helping Olivia with all of her self-care. Even through chemo, at my absolute worst, unless I was asleep or otherwise incapacitated, I was the one who helped her. She’s pretty capable these days but she does need supervision when dealing with a few things. I’m that supervisor. I feel like as she gets older, it’s better for both her and to Tom that I step up and do these things. Score another point in the awesome wife category.

Wait, actually, example 2 should actually count as more like five point in the awesome wife category, because some of that self-care stuff is just gross.

I buy all the groceries because after eight-ish years as a manager at WalMart Tom hates stores like that. So I spare him the horror of entering them by being The Grocery Shopper of family. I tell him often that he’s welcome. (No I don’t. He does so much for me and the girls that sparing him WalMart visits is the least I can do. But it still counts as an example of my awesome wifeliness.)

I work to provide our family insurance. That’s huge in my book. We could have gone bankrupt in the past year with all my medical expenses if I hadn’t worked all these years and had insurance. So yes, I’m an amazing wife and mother.

As anyone who even semi-regularly reads here, I run myself down a lot. The voices in my head tell me often how stupid I am, or how lazy, or how lucky I am to have my husband and daughters because I’m not worthy of htem.

But I am. I deserve all their awesomeness as much as they deserve mine. I just have to remind myself of that every so often. I pray every single day that there is more good in my than bad and that I’m creating more good, happy, healthy memories for my girls than bad, negative, damaging ones.